Are Women Particularly Prone to Being Deceived?

It all started with marketing…  Wait.  No.  That’s not what I meant!  The marketing (in this case) wasn’t the deception, it was me getting some research done.  I’m looking for people to send ARCs of the new book to – aka this is me doing marketing.

Blog after blog.  Writer after writer.  Speaker after speaker… and what do I see?  The SAME concept I use as my raison d’ etre.   “Freeing women from the lies that shackle them”.

My first reaction was to scream, “Ewwwww!” and run for the hills.  I hate being derivative.

My second reaction was to sit back and think, “Alright self – obviously there’s a huge market for this.  Why is that?”  Well, the first answer is that women like to have someone to listen to when we go to the church retreat.    That’s not a bad thing.   Women need women to help them through things that women deal with, and fellowship with Nice Church Ladies is not a bad way to spend a Saturday without the kids.

The second answer came up from my memories of listening to Dr. McGee (Thru the Bible).   I remember him saying that women had a more sensitive “tuner” – which made us more likely to hear things, both good and bad.    Hm…

And the third answer is to consider the nature of woman – we are, properly and in good health, the maintainers of networks of family and acquaintance.   That means that we are constantly taking in messages about what it means to be “good”  – and then we internalize those ideas.  Sometimes they’re garbage ideas though.

Reluctantly, I think the answer is “yes”.  I *do* think women are more prone to believe lies than are men.   And we get stuck in bad places and need to be shaken out.   That’s the Titus 2 ministry in a nutshell.   Older women unsticking younger women and helping them along.

I hate marketing.   I don’t *want* to be “just another” writer or speaker or blogger.  Heck, I barely am – because my blog reader list is super short.    I have no capacity to make a “professional polished persona” that doesn’t talk about all of my life, not just my “brand”.  (I don’t want to be branded, sounds painful).  Gack.

I hate lies.  I don’t want to do “polished and shiny”.   I want to do REAL.  I *really* see women around me who believe that they are magically not ambassadors for Christ ’cause they don’t want to be.   I *really* see women around me who are afraid to be beautiful.   I *really* see women who are confused about the whole thing.  And I *really* see a world that needs more beauty in it.

I want to fix that.

And yeah, I would also like it to pay a few bills.  That’s real, kthx.

But I don’t want to join an industry – I want to break hearts open to the light.

We have a Titus 2 Industry because women don’t have intergenerational relationships, because we humans in 2019 don’t have relationships with humans outside our computers all that much period, because we don’t *know* anyone really.   I mentor, which is awesome – but you know, I have to do it formally, because informally, there’s not a younger woman in my church who would feel comfortable randomly walking up to me and asking me a question.  That sucks.

Instead we eat the lies of the World.   We *want* guidance.  We need it.   We *will* get it somewhere.   We model ourselves after… someone.   Multiple someones.    That’s what women do – we’re malleable.  Good characteristic when you consider our position as someone who comes alongside her husband and makes herself part of his life.  Problematic in other ways.

So yes.  I think we are prone to deception, and it makes me sad.  And it makes me mad, and determined to pick up my sword………

3 thoughts on “Are Women Particularly Prone to Being Deceived?

  1. Peggy

    I really wish undeceiving people was sword work, but it isn’t…see 2 Timothy. I think the reason we are told to do it with gentleness is to avoid driving people further toward their “so much nicer” deceivers.

  2. nellperkins

    Well, I don’t think women are particularly prone to being deceived, but people sure are! But then again, maybe I’ve been deceived. I know the first time anyone ever told me I had a specific spiritual gift, it was discernment, which I now think absurd because I’m old enough to know how many hundreds of times I’ve been deceived….

    Now, about you, when I had well and truly made up my mind to get that style analysis done, I had been reading your blogs for a couple of years but never commenting. Coming across you was part of a whole spiritual process for me that started when I quit smoking (long, long story). Anyway, I wanted to go with someone local because I’m into localism and also because then the person and I could meet face to face.

    But then I looked at their online presence. I could tell from that that I could either go with you, who seems to be very good at taking your own raw material and making yourself truly lovely but also “very you” OR I could go with a woman who looked like an ’80s evangelical’s pastor’s wife frozen in time and eager to train other women how to do the same OR I could go with a woman who would teach me how to look like a corporate lady lawyer. I chose you because I didn’t want to lose myself in the process. (And even if I didn’t want to look like myself, I’d still not want to look frozen and stiff.)

    I’m throwing your own advice back at ya! You be you and you’ll be fine, even if you’re not a huge worldly success. Being a huge worldly success isn’t bad, but ultimately it isn’t the point.

    Hang in there!


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