It all started with marketing… Wait. No. That’s not what I meant! The marketing (in this case) wasn’t the deception, it was me getting some research done. I’m looking for people to send ARCs of the new book to – aka this is me doing marketing.
Blog after blog. Writer after writer. Speaker after speaker… and what do I see? The SAME concept I use as my raison d’ etre. “Freeing women from the lies that shackle them”.
My first reaction was to scream, “Ewwwww!” and run for the hills. I hate being derivative.
My second reaction was to sit back and think, “Alright self – obviously there’s a huge market for this. Why is that?” Well, the first answer is that women like to have someone to listen to when we go to the church retreat. That’s not a bad thing. Women need women to help them through things that women deal with, and fellowship with Nice Church Ladies is not a bad way to spend a Saturday without the kids.
The second answer came up from my memories of listening to Dr. McGee (Thru the Bible). I remember him saying that women had a more sensitive “tuner” – which made us more likely to hear things, both good and bad. Hm…
And the third answer is to consider the nature of woman – we are, properly and in good health, the maintainers of networks of family and acquaintance. That means that we are constantly taking in messages about what it means to be “good” – and then we internalize those ideas. Sometimes they’re garbage ideas though.
Reluctantly, I think the answer is “yes”. I *do* think women are more prone to believe lies than are men. And we get stuck in bad places and need to be shaken out. That’s the Titus 2 ministry in a nutshell. Older women unsticking younger women and helping them along.
I hate marketing. I don’t *want* to be “just another” writer or speaker or blogger. Heck, I barely am – because my blog reader list is super short. I have no capacity to make a “professional polished persona” that doesn’t talk about all of my life, not just my “brand”. (I don’t want to be branded, sounds painful). Gack.
I hate lies. I don’t want to do “polished and shiny”. I want to do REAL. I *really* see women around me who believe that they are magically not ambassadors for Christ ’cause they don’t want to be. I *really* see women around me who are afraid to be beautiful. I *really* see women who are confused about the whole thing. And I *really* see a world that needs more beauty in it.
I want to fix that.
And yeah, I would also like it to pay a few bills. That’s real, kthx.
But I don’t want to join an industry – I want to break hearts open to the light.
We have a Titus 2 Industry because women don’t have intergenerational relationships, because we humans in 2019 don’t have relationships with humans outside our computers all that much period, because we don’t *know* anyone really. I mentor, which is awesome – but you know, I have to do it formally, because informally, there’s not a younger woman in my church who would feel comfortable randomly walking up to me and asking me a question. That sucks.
Instead we eat the lies of the World. We *want* guidance. We need it. We *will* get it somewhere. We model ourselves after… someone. Multiple someones. That’s what women do – we’re malleable. Good characteristic when you consider our position as someone who comes alongside her husband and makes herself part of his life. Problematic in other ways.
So yes. I think we are prone to deception, and it makes me sad. And it makes me mad, and determined to pick up my sword………