Raise your hand if you’ve heard of this book… “Boundaries” by Henry Cloud.
Now raise your hand if you’ve not been bothered to read it, because you figured it was the standard bit of Christian self-help puff.
Yeah. Okay, the latter was me. And then after the third person I knew talked about how awesome it was, I figured, well… let’s have a read.
Will it change my life? No. Because I’m already all about boundaries. It helped me with my ongoing project of communicating more clearly, so that’s good. But OY. I want to get this book in the hands of as many people as possible.
Why? Because the lack of boundaries is a major problem for about 70% of the people I know, in one direction or the other. I have *been* that person, and it took some nastiness to get that rooted out of my psyche. Now I’m more “let your yes be yes and your no be no” even while I inwardly writhe because I’d really rather say “yes” all the time.
What it is: 300 pages of dissection of problem/instructions on change. Brutally honest.
What it is not: Fluffy and short and easy.
If you want guilt to stop working on you? Get this book.
If you want to know why people in your life act the way they do? Get this book.
It’s a good read. Very Christian, but useful for non-Christians too.