It seems like most of modern life can be thought of as voyeuristic. We watch from outside, consuming – not participating.
I was thinking about this in regards to my quest to return Beauty to its rightful place, and realized that it’s not just Beauty. It’s everything. It’s food. It’s relationships, it’s song, dance, story. If we can make “It” into something that an expert can do perfectly, we’ll give over that part of our lives to the expert and retreat to the shadows.
That specialization might be okay, if we lived in small ponds where each of us could be a big fish in his or her own right. Known for our cupcakes or our style or our friendship… but that’s not how we live. We are in the global pond, and there are only a few who can be the “best” in any one venue. And so we retreat, make ourselves smaller and smaller.
And then we don’t take thought about how we want to live our lives – truly live them – as part of the world, interacting, intersecting, visible, worthy, interesting. We make of our hearts a shadow place, and only look outward, to the Other.
Life is not meant to be lived from the outside, peeking through the screen at the “real people”. We are all real people, and it’s past time for us to start treating ourselves that way.