Hat tip to BB… whose comment: http://lovingintheruins.wordpress.com/2014/10/01/els-marriage-purpose-statement/comment-page-1/#comment-7306 in regards to marriage purpose statements gave me some great stuff to mull over in the back of my head for the past week or two.
Another hat-tip… I was just taking a mental break and went over to Jess’ place and SLAM! Here you go. http://jessconnell.com/the-opposite-of-the-proverbs-31-woman/
I am someone who is continually sanding herself down, continually working to find the right balance. I work to think up good schedules and priorities, and then I let those run along while I get on with the rest of my life. Give things a month or two, and see what needs tightening up. I’m also a person whose unofficial priorities (the emotional ones) sneak in and have to be defended against.
My goal is to become a Proverbs 31 wife. When I picture the Prov 31 lady, I see a lady in her 50s. She’s still strong, still capable of taking just about everything life can dish out – but she also has a lifetime of skills to draw on, and is far enough along that she is reaping the benefits of the investments made. She has grown children, she has handmaidens, she has a husband who is hanging out at the gates of the city. This woman is a woman in her full maturity.
The season of life that I find myself in (see “week in the life of me”) is primarily concerned with maintenance and supervision. My children are older – 10 and 14 – and well able to keep up with their own work as long as I provide guidance and an occasional prod. It is time for me to – having gotten the most important things going – to start work on the other parts of my life. (Without letting my primaries slip). (I’m 41, fwiw).
I spent the last year doing an internship at church, so I can be part of serving the Body in a more organized fashion. And I’ve been trying to get my sewing skills off the ground – make a bit of a business of it. But I find that I still have the mentality that my sewing is a “me thing” – and so is my physical activity. Even though a long walk in what will have to do as the woods does me no *end* of good psychologically and physically… I feel a bit guilty.
So, since making intelligent investments in the future is a big part of being a Proverbs 31, it’s time for me to look very carefully at my life and see where I’m being nibbled to death by ducks, and it’s time for me to ruthlessly squash guilt when it rears its ugly head. There are times when I’m being a lazy-bug, but more times when I’m just spread too thin and suffering for it.
It’s all putting theory into action!